The Positude Podcast

[00:00:26] Speaker A: Good evening, folks, and welcome to another episode of the Positude podcast. I am your host, Maggie Hart. Looking forward to spending another hour with you this week, learning some things, sharing some things, and just enjoying each other's company in general. I hope that everybody had a lovely week. It seems as though the weather is getting a little bit warmer outside. I'm sure that a lot of you are out doing yard work and enjoying the sunshine. If you were lucky enough to have sunshine. I've only had a few glimmers here and there for a few minutes, but spring has sprung. It seems as though people's allergies are starting to bother them and they're planting their flowers and cleaning up their leaves from the last year and just enjoying the signs of new birth, baby birds and nests and things like that. It's just a great time of year. It's a symbol of, as I said before, birth and rebirth. But also just the climate changes are so helpful for people who suffer from things like seasonal depression and the lack of sunshine. So having the sun and being out in nature and being able to enjoy that warmth on your face and soak up that energy is so healing and restorative to our bodies. If you're not able to or you're not in an area where there's a lot of sunshine, you may want to try taking some vitamin D, because that also is awesome. I know there are all sorts of fancy light treatments and things out there, but plain good old sunshine and vitamin D are really the best, easiest, inexpensive things to do when you're looking to improve your moods. So there's my sharing my knowledge for today. I want to go back to. We were talking last week about the book, the inner work, and there are just so many gems in this book and so much to share out of it. And there's another book that I've been revisiting, too, called Codependent no more, that I may share some passages with out of this week, and if not this week, maybe next week. But we're on a journey here. This is kind of a two parter, I guess you would say, to help people who are struggling with their ego and trauma and how to heal all of that and get past all of that so that you're able to be a happier person, more loving person in a relationship, a better parent, a better friend, all of that. And when we're healed ourselves, we're able to heal each other as a result, because we can do two things. We can pass along the knowledge that we've come to understand that has helped us to heal and just us being a better person, a friendlier person, a more compassionate or caring person, someone who listens when typically before they didn't have somebody who has patience that didn't exert or exhibit a lot of patience before all of these things help to branch out. Just like a ripple in a pond, as I'm so fond of saying, to help subsequent family members and friends and people that we have life encounters with just by them feeling that warmth or that different feeling, or even consciously being aware of the fact that, oh, my gosh, two years ago I talked to Joe and he was a total crab. Now I talked to him and for 15 minutes we spoke about the weather and the garden and what's happening on the planet and shared some laughs and revisited some old times. And he seems different, and I can't quite put my finger on it, but he's calmer, he's gentler, he's got more patience, he's got a sense of humor now that I don't remember him ever having before. There are many ways that we can affect others, and that simple. Just passing through at a supermarket or a gas station or at a workplace, people will start to realize, they'll start to see the changes in you. And I bet after not too long, and you're consistent with your healing, and you're consistent with getting better and healing your emotions and getting past all of the traumas and all of the ego things that people will regularly tell you what's different about you? They'll ask you what's different about you? Something seems different. You seem to have changed. That's a really good indication that you're on the right path. Of course, if you change for the better, if you change for the worse, that might not be such a good thing for you overall. But there and again, it brings awareness to the changes that you're putting out there. And that possibly would be another option for you to look at yourself and do sort of a self evaluation. What? Why am I different? What's changed about me? Why did they say that? What do they mean by that? Or you could just ask them. They may tell you, or they may not want to offend you, but if it's in a good positive direction, they'll tell you, you know, hey, you just seem more light hearted, you don't seem to be as frustrated, you don't seem to be as angry, you don't seem to be as depressed. And that's a wonderful awareness that you can carry with you that will make you feel better. Knowing that you're making enough of a personal change. Personal changes that other people start to notice is awesome. And it's something to be proud of. Another thing that I'd like everybody to be aware of is don't beat yourself up when you slip and fall once in a while, we all are learning. We're all growing. And it's really important that if you make a mistake, you're kind to yourself. You have compassion, self compassion. Because when you're working to make these changes, especially when it comes to these ego things, it's a pattern that's ingrained in you, perhaps for your whole or most of your childhood, it can go back years and years and years. And so your mind is going to want to revert back to those original patterns. So if you slip and fall, it's okay. Be gentle with yourself. Be patient with yourself. Allow yourself those same forgiveness qualities that you would for another person that's potentially wronged you, or patience for a person that you know that's made a mistake. Take the same kind of self care with yourself. It's really important. And you can, if you're in a conversation with somebody and something like this happens to you can always approach them and say, look, I want to talk to you. I realized that the other day, maybe I handled things not so well or could have handled them a little differently. And I just wanted to apologize to you and let you know that I did give it some thought and I realized that I want to be a better person. And so as a result, let's have that conversation again, or please accept my apology and know that that's not what I meant. Not really. And I'm trying to do better. And that will help the people around you to understand that you are aware of what you're doing and you're making a conscious effort that is just, again, so awesome. Keep in mind that you can't control how they're going to respond to that. So when you re approach them, they may not take it the best way. They might be having a bad day themselves when you go to readdress the issue or to apologize, so don't take it personally. Just say your piece, get it off your chest, tell them how you feel and let them handle it. How they're going to handle it. If it's a positive thing, then feel blessed for that. But if it's a negative response, like, you know what, this person was really a jerk and I'm not ready to forgive them yet, or I'm just going to be grumpy today. Let it go. Let it go. Understand that they're dealing with their own struggles and their emotions just like you are, and they might not be having the best day. However, you might run into them two, three months down the road, and it might be a whole different scenario. Or they may stop and think about how you approach them to try and make your feelings better known and to apologize, or to rephrase some things and come across from a more gentle approach that's going to seep into them, too. They might think about that and say, wow, you know, I probably didn't handle that the right way. The next time I see them, I'm going to have to make a conscious effort to be nicer and let them know that I appreciate whatever it was that they had to say and make their opinions feel valued. I'd like to think, though, overall, people would be positively responsive to that and understand that you are creating some changes in your life for the better, and that's something to be applauded. I think that most people would be supportive in that and tell you that they're proud of you and tell you that they're noticing the changes. So take it easy on yourself. I guess that's the first part of my lesson for today. Don't beat yourself up if you make a mistake. If you've made a mistake. Another thing, you know, accountability is a really big deal. So please admit that to the other person. Put your ego aside and admit, look, I didn't handle this the right way, or maybe it came out wrong. And so there again, you're giving them the opportunity to understand a little bit about what's going on in your mind and letting them know that you're conscious of their feelings. Because sometimes we're in the heat of a moment, or we're busy, or we're tired, or we're hungry, things just come out wrong. And maybe we don't mean that, but you really don't want to be perceived as a jerk by the rest of the free world, do you? No, most of us don't. Anyway. Some people say, I don't care, but that's another issue for another day. So, moving on with the inner work here. They talk in the book about Emoto's work. Probably most of you out there have heard about Doctor Masaru Emoto and his studies with water. He's done some amazing things. Now, there are certain factions that have totally pooh poohed his work and said, it's not real and this and that. But I've actually done some real life experience experiments, rather, and they have been successful. I did the rice experiment. What I did was I had some kindergarten kids, actually, and I cooked up some rice, and I put two baby jars of rice on the table, and I had the children gather around, and I told them, for the first jar, which we clearly labeled love, I want you to put your little hands around the jar, and as hard as you can, think about love. Think about happy feelings, joyful feelings, and put that energy. Focus on putting that energy into the jarved. Or just hold the jar in your hands while you're thinking these thoughts, and that energy will go into the jar. And then I took the other jar, and I said, with this jar, I want you, before you, to hold it. I want you to get really remembering an angry time in your life where you were frustrated or angry at your mom or dad or a sibling or a child classmate in school, and when you were just very upset with them and you had these bad feelings inside of you. And once you have that in your head, hold this jar and focus that on that. Focus on all of your anger and bad feelings and frustration going into that second rice jar. And we did that for about a week. And the rice on the right side got darkest, and it was definitely gray, blackish in color. And it was visibly evident to the children that their dark and angry thoughts took this plain white rice and turned it gray and darkish. It looked rotted. It looked old. It looked yucky. And they could clearly see the difference between the two jars. So it was a good lesson to learn. Funny story, though, that initially when I did the experiment, we had to start over and do it again, because the first time that we did it, one of the little boys had some behavioral issues in the class, and he grabbed the love jar and was very frustrated and angry and grabbed it and held on to it and kind of shook it around and then grabbed the other jar before we could stop him. And so consequently, both jars turned out gray. And so maybe that little one was the result. Maybe the grayness and the blackness in the second experiment was mainly as a result of that little boy, who knows? But it just goes to show you that energy is at play and can go into objects, and our moods and our feelings affect everything they really do. We just were not as aware as we should be of that. I've also done the experiment with water, where I've taken a water glass and held it, cupped it in my hands, and it's actually twice that I've done this. The first time I did it to see if I could feel a difference. When I drank the water after I had energized it, they call it with feelings of love and happiness and joy. And I did feel like I felt a difference, whether or not that was my imagination or not, who knows? But I felt as though it felt better, the water tasted better, and it just seemed to, when I drank it, when I drank it, rather fill me with a feeling of peace. So. And there was another instance where I had just done some healing work for an individual and just left her and got in my car, and I had touched my cup and just was sitting there holding my cup in the parking lot, thinking for reflecting for a few minutes. And when I looked down in my cup, it seemed like there were little sparkles in it of just really almost like glitter, like somebody had taken some glitter and put it inside of it. And it was. It had been a very successful healing episode. And the woman felt a lot better, and I felt really good about her feeling better when I left and got in the car and was just reflecting on that, sitting there holding my cup, taking a drink, and looked down because it happened to have a clear cover and everything seemed to be shimmering and shining inside the cup. So. So the book says, lessons from water doctor Masaru Emoto was able to visually demonstrate the variations of different themes of consciousness. In his book, the hidden Messages in Water, Doctor Emoto captured the effects that vibrational frequencies had on frozen water crystals. Using a powerful microscope with high speed photography, he conducted experiments that consisted of exposing water to different positive and negative speech, positive and negative thoughts, various types of music, and even photographs. He then froze the samples of water to examine how the formation of crystals aesthetically changed. His experiments showed that water exposed to higher calibrating frequencies, such as love, in the form of positive speech and pleasant music, generated uniquely beautiful, symmetrical crystals, whereas the water exposed to negative frequencies, such as shame or anger, yielded unformed and asymmetrical crystals. The physical representation of each crystal formation is a perfect visual of how themes of consciousness manifest into the physical realm. And then he's got evil. You fool, you mistrust me. Harmony, love and gratitude. And thank you. And the different photographs of the crystals. And of course, the thank you is beautiful. It looks like a beautiful snowflake. The love and gratitude looks like an even more intricate, beautiful, beautiful snowflake. And then harmony also looks like a very pretty snowflake. So, similarly to crystals, the book says, a person occupying a limiting theme of consciousness, such as fear. Fear will create a life that looks and feels like fear. In the same way, a person whose theme of consciousness is calibrating and a liberating frequency, such as love and inner peace, will in turn create a life that looks and feels like love and peace. So the people who have the fear emotion will experience thoughts of worry and doubt. Terror will surround them. They will experience feelings of paranoia and distrust. They will perceive enemies, whether physically or mentally. They will feel anxious around other people. Their choice of words will often be full of pessimism or panic. When they look at the world, they will see fearful concerns, instability and jeopardy. Whereas the people with the happy feelings, the liberating feelings of love and inner peace, will experience thoughts that are compassionate and kind. Their bodies will usually radiate health and wellness. They will feel grateful for all the people and experiences in their life. Laughter and beauty will surround them. They will see the silver lining in every situation. Their choice of words will be full of intention and optimism. When they look at the world, they will see divine love and perfection. And so these are themes that we've been talking about right along is positive feelings versus negative feelings, and how they affect us, not only emotionally, but physically as well. And as a result, how people outside can notice these changes and see these differences. It goes into the themes of consciousness and explains them a little bit, which I find to be very fascinating and valuable information. From shame, extreme debt may be seen as proof of our cursed existence. Our worthlessness and suicide may be seen as the only way out of. And what they're talking about is the theme of debt and credit. So in guilt, we may obsess on our debts as a demonstration of our stupidity and how wrong we are for having it. Or project blame onto the credit companies for how vile and wrong they are for enslaving us all. In hopelessness. Our debt is completely paralyzing. We possibly give up on making payments as it seems pointless to even try. We feel there's no way out, and accruing interest will just keep us trapped forever in grief. We dwell on how much we are losing every day through interest, regretting our purchases and overall feeling. How sad and depressing our situation is. From the perspective of fear, we may look at our debt with paranoia and scare ourselves with worst case scenarios. What if I'll never be able to pay this back? What if I lose everything in desire? We may see debt as an opportunity to chase our pleasures and are excited to spend money we don't actually have yet, so that we can get what we want now. In anger, we may view our debt with annoyance frustration or even rage at the accrument of interest, cursing out loud each time we receive an unexpected bill. Pride will either be overly obsessed with its credit score and its smartest and best use of credit, or it will use debt to inflate its appearances through expensive or impressive purchases, but in reality be hiding incredible amounts of insecurity and debt accumulation. In the theme of courage, debt is finally seen with the integrity of accountability and we commit to paying back our debts through honorably doing what we must do to repay, even if it takes a lifetime. In neutrality, debt is seen impartially and what it is, whatever happens, will be okay. Thus, even if we have debt, it doesn't really affect our day to day life. In willingness, debt is seen as an amazing opportunity to launch business ventures, investments and is seen as an ally in achieving our goals and ambitions. Acceptance sees credit and loans as a useful part of our lives. We don't care to understand why the financial institutions are set up the way they are, but nevertheless use credit with responsibility and acceptance of our limits. From reason and understanding, credit is seen as a fascinating creation of the financial world that, if used wisely, can actually make us money if we know how to leverage it with cleverness. Thus, we learn creative ways to make more money from credit through investments and interests working in our favor. And finally, from the perspective of love and inner peace, credit is viewed with gratitude for the help we are being offered. In our moments of need, we see that the creator is giving us a gift for something that we need right now in order to advance our lives to another level of growth and evolution. We have faith that we will be provided a way to pay back the interest with ease. All we are required to do is put forth our best effort. God will provide the how in peace and love. We believe everything is working out for our benefit and so use credit wisely. Now some people out there might say, hey, but there shouldn't be any credit and it shouldn't be this way and we shouldn't be living this way. And I totally agree. But in the absence of a utopian world, given the tools to work with that we have, this can be a very positive way, as the positive aspects of this chapter have shown, to prove beneficial to help you when you need it. So it goes on to say true freedom and lasting happiness represents the transcendence of the physical reality where nothing in the external world could ever affect our internal world. Thus, everything is seen as a holographic projection of consciousness and is just to be experienced and not attached to. We wear any debt like a house, like a loose garment, not letting it ever affect our internal state. Nothing of this world actually defines us. The world becomes a divine reality of creation for us to enjoy with a heart of love and goodness. This is not to be confused with lack of integrity and recklessness, which would be reflective of the limiting themes. We are spiritually mature, innocence embodied, and have all the beneficial wisdom of the previous themes. Thus, credit is used with ultimate intelligence and guidance. This is just one example of how each theme has a very specific and unique perspective of reality and why we see so much diversity amongst humanity. We could all be experiencing the exact same situation or circumstance, but based on our theme of consciousness, we will interpret it and thus respond completely different to it. And boy, isn't that the truth. We can see things, you know, in a room. A bunch of us could be put in the same scenario. And how we all, as individuals tend to perceive it, rationalize it, and get through it is just. There are a myriad of opportunities or possibilities depending on our outlook. And so that's what we're working on. We're working on changing this to a positive environment and looking at things positively. So then they go on to talk about vibration and the energetic. They allude to the energetic correspondence to these different themes of consciousness. It says, we call them themes of consciousness because the vibration you settle into will paint a consistent energetic theme throughout each area of your life and will continue to show up whenever an opportunity presents itself. These themes will stay with you an entire lifetime unless you consciously address them. Just as good soil will bear good crops, your thoughts, words, feelings, desires, habits and interests are intrinsically rooted in a theme of consciousness. Negatively charged themes will produce negatively charged thoughts, feelings and actions, while positively charged themes will produce positively charged thoughts, feelings and actions. So within each theme of consciousness, root program beliefs will find validation, support and expression through our repeated thoughts and actions. This then creates neural programs that we begin operating on subconsciously. Hence the term autopilot. All of this making up our subjective experience of reality. If we are not aware of this process, we will naturally think the problems of our life are coming from out there. When reeling, it's all coming from an internal theme. They also give some pretty cool examples which I'm going to share with you. Thought I'm right about this. They are wrong. Feeling is haughty. Action is argumentative. Root problem, belief. I believe I am superior and others are inferior. Theme of consciousness there is pride. Thought I want him. I want to get his attention. Feeling is craving. The action is seduction. Root program belief. I believe when I am wanted, I am loved. Theme of consciousness is desire. Thought I look stupid, they are probably laughing at me. Feeling humiliation. Action is repress and hide. Root program belief is I'm unlovable. Theme of consciousness is shame. There thought my life will never be as good again. Life is so tragic. Feeling a sadness, the action is to sulk. Root program belief, I lose everything I love. Theme of consciousness grief. Thought I will get revenge, I'll show them. Feeling is aggression. The action is attack or demean. The root program belief is I expect to get what I want. Theme of consciousness is anger. So there are a few examples of how we take these thoughts and what we internalize them and create in our own minds the meaning behind them when it's not a valid or at least an appropriate feeling. And so we're working on changing all of this. We're working on our inner selves to make these things better, to transcend a theme that is no longer serving you and move into a theme that does. You must stop compartmentalizing your life. We've talked about this before in my show. So many people do this, and it says there's no situation, reaction or scenario that is isolated from your theme of consciousness. In that moment, everything's connected. How you do anything is a reflection of how you do everything. By looking for recurring patterns, you can start to identify the frequencies you are living in. If you are living in love, love will come out of you even in times of struggle. So that's when you know you've made the big time, right? Is if you live in that state of love, then even in the state of struggle, you're not going to relapse. If you were something else before, you're not going to let that love and joy just be sucked out of you. You're going to continue to live in those feelings because all of those peels of layers of the onion from the ego have been stripped away from you. So you don't have any of those quote unquote hang ups anymore. We may all be looking, the book says, at the same world or be sharing the exact same situation, but how we experience it is drastically different. We refer to this as paradigm blindness. As much as we like to think there is a fixed, objective world that is separate from us, in truth, objectivity is in the eye of the beholder. This has now been confirmed through discoveries in quantum physics that is collapse of the wave function. So for all of you out there that say, where's the science? There it is. Next, we'll talk about overcoming negativity and the book says it is easy to complain. It's a worthy challenge to be consistently grateful. Our misery has actually just been a reflection of the ego's narcissism and a demonstration that it would rather complain, throw tantrums, and kick and scream about our life instead of doing anything to change its perspective. In a delusional way, our ego convinces us that being miserable and depressed is secretly empowering. It subconsciously believes if I can't control my life, at least I can control my resistance to it. In themes of shame, for instance, the ego will look for any situation to validate how worthless it is. See, I told you this would happen. Nothing ever works out for me. I'm so unlucky and worthless. Guilt might complain, God must be punishing me. I probably deserve this. Or perhaps in themes of desire at things, no matter how hard I work, I never seem to get ahead. How many times have we heard people use that phrase in our lives? How many times have we used it ourself? Right? So it goes on to say the ego actually believes that suffering is proving a point. But the only point it is proving is how confused it is. If not careful, the ego can actually become enthusiastic about proving how awful its life is, which is a fascinating discovery. Notice that people often gather to complain and share their stories of hardship and loss, almost as if in competition of whose is worse. The adage really is true that misery loves company, and if we want to find peace in life, we have to step back and start questioning our egos perspectives and agendas. I think this is probably a good time to stop and take a musical break. Most of my music on my shows are provided to me from my good buddy Pat Carr. You can reach them at Carr. Pat is an amazing original musician, originally from Louisiana, now in the Colorado area. He's on soundclick reverb nation all over the place. 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So with that being said, I'm going to turn it over to Barry Cooney and love has many ways and we'll be back right after this. Thanks for listening. [00:33:58] Speaker B: Lo. There's many ways of finding people alone and crying. And it came to me in the spring of year, the first time that I saw you. I wish that I could meet you and do you honor my wish came true. But the dark knees falls alive until you follow his mother. I'll follow you, do you say no no. Together, walking, holding hands and always talking, you make me feel so good inside. Then I think before I met you, I was alone and never talked to. Came and took those days away. But a large sheep follows the sea, an airplane follows the sky. I follow you, do you say no? No. Your love is making me harder. It's growing strong and can never be mine. And I know with you girl, I stand a chance. And as the years go by. [00:36:41] Speaker A: I. [00:36:41] Speaker B: Hope I love on that it's giving me what I needed to live on. But time is found by ah. I'll read the follows of age. I'll follow you, do you say no? No. [00:37:23] Speaker A: And we're back. Thank you for joining us here for the second half of the Positude podcast. I am your host, Maggie Hart. We're talking tonight about healing emotional trauma and the ego and some situations that arise as a result of us trying to heal, heal these hidden traumas and overcoming the ego, which because of our past life experiences, has, because of our occurrences, has shaped the way that we perceive things and developed sort of a Persona around us which we adapt as our own Persona, when in reality it's not our Persona at all, it's a result of our past trauma and pain and the way that we reacted to that, or the way that the ego feels that we should react to that, and how we gauge and respond to certain situations as a result. I've been referring to a book called the inner Work, which shares a lot of the same modalities or ways to treat that I use, and I find it a very valuable tool in my healing sessions. And so I wanted to share some of the knowledge contained within this book with you. And we were talking before the break about energies and vibrations, and the book continues on to talk about how our brain scientifically, which is where we left off into the break, we were just broaching this how our brain scientifically handles these changes. Because our mental stories have become so familiar to us, our brain actually becomes accustomed to the emotions and chemicals those particular types of thoughts produce. For example, fearful or aggressive thoughts release adrenaline. Worrisome and stressful thoughts produce cortisol, another very powerful hormone. Over time, our bodies start to crave and expect these chemicals on a regular basis. In some cases, we can become literally addicted to our stress, our suffering, or our victimization. Understand it will take time and consistent practice of inner work to rewire the brain's neurochemistry. Be patient, kind, and compassionate with yourself. We spoke about that earlier. Over time, the old needs and negative energy cravings of the brain and body will subside. And eventually, instead of craving stress hormones from worry and doubt, your body will want to enjoy the endorphins that come with gratitude. To trust in goodness and have faith and hope in a brighter future elicits its own spiritual, mental and physical rewards simply by indulging in such energies of optimism. We've talked about that a lot on the show. Chris Prentice says, the more you engage in any type of emotion or behavior, the greater your desire for it will become. The book goes on to say, if true happiness and inner peace are rare, it is not because it isn't available, but rather because few have chosen it. Happiness and inner peace are hallmarks of your natural state. They are who you truly are. The ego is just blocking you from realizing it and has convinced you that you can have them, or that they are only found somewhere other than right now. The truth is always simple. The ultimate choice is always present in every moment. All things of consciousness can be transmuted and healed. No one is exempt. All are forgiven in the moment of sincere acknowledgement. All are loved, no matter what. No one is forsaken. Nothing is off limits. If you want to be truly happy, you can do this. Everyone can be happy and fulfilled. True freedom and lasting happiness are just a continuous lifestyle choice that transcends limiting themes of consciousness. There's nothing more to it. We don't have to make it more complicated. It is not something that is earned from accomplishing rare, challenging things. Nothing needs to be earned or gained, only remembered through surrendering resistance to the truth. The truth that you are loved beyond possible comprehension and have equal access to true freedom and lasting happiness. So, again, these are many things that we've talked about throughout the years on my shows, and something most recently, we've delved into a little bit deeper. But practice makes perfect. And so it's important in these instances that, as I said earlier, even if you fall, you get back up and start again. And be gentle with yourself. Have that compassion that you would normally show to others. The first step, the book says, to actualizing this is, and this is love and joy in every new moment and live in the awakened state of yourself is to simply become aware of any shift away from inner peace and gratitude. And that's something that I teach. When you feel those feelings of negativity, fear, anger, frustration creeping in, anything like that, that's negative. Push those thoughts out of your head as you're feeling them. Make a conscious effort to bring in the loving thoughts. Now, if you're not a good person with visualization, then that might not be the best technique for you. But a way that you can do this is to recognize those feelings. Stop right at that moment, because we always need to be in the moment. And transmute the statements that you're hearing in your head from your ego to something of joy and peace. Think of a child's birth, or think of a special birthday, or something that's given you an event or experience that's giving you complete and utter joy in your life. You know, maybe your family surprised you. We've talked about this one for a birthday party, and you just didn't anticipate it. And it was a mark year a special year. And so you were just overcome with emotion at the fact that your family would go through that much trouble for you, and the feelings of surprise, joy, elation, and even pride that you felt. And hold on to that energy, not just those thoughts, but hold on to that energy and keep those inside of you. And every time something negative crops up, push it out and replace it with that feeling of utter and complete joy and peace and happiness. So the book goes on to say, the first step to actualizing this is us simply becoming aware of any shift away from inner peace and gratitude. Remember that your true self is in silent bliss of existence. Whatever pulls you out of this divine contentment is what we refer to as a trigger. And I'm sure you've heard me say this word many times on my show as well. A trigger reveals a limitation in our unconscious programming, and as our first clue on the path to freedom. Each time we're pulled out of peace, we must turn our gaze away from the scenario and instead look within ourselves with curious eyes. For some of us, dissatisfaction may arise first thing in the morning with the sound of the alarm clock. As soon as we wake up, feelings of stress and frustration regarding our to do lists may immediately come to our attention. For others, bitterness or anger may arise suddenly when our partner says or does something we deem inconsiderate or annoying. We deem being the key words in that phrase, in that sentence. Or perhaps joy leaves us when an unexpected bill arrives, reminding us of a perceived burden. Whatever the initial fall from peace may have been triggered by, we must move our attention away from the circumstance and become more interested as to why we're even bothered. To begin with, what belief is behind the trigger. The purpose of identifying triggers is to connect them to a root program, belief that is not serving our highest self, and so we reclaim our power and authority over our responses to life. So that's what I counsel to do in the immediate situation, negate those thoughts, fill them with positive thoughts, and then reflect in that moment. Why are we feeling this way? What's causing this? What's at the root of it? What's our trigger? What was our trigger? In that scenario? The book goes on to say, for example, let's say your partner or child does something in a public setting that draws unwanted attention and you become embarrassed. Therefore, falling away from a peaceful state, you might feel tempted to reprimand them or shame them with guilt. It's a typical auto response of an unconscious program of embarrassment and feeling unlovable. This program seeks to perpetuate itself by blaming other people or circumstances for its discomfort while avoiding taking ownership, that the program itself is the issue when we've spoken about that before, ownership and standing up and admitting when you've made a mistake and admitting your shortcomings, taking responsibility for your actions is so important in this process. How we react to triggers is very telling as to what program we might be running on. If we reprimand and degrade each other, we probably struggle with shame. If we judge another, we most likely tend to harshly judge ourselves and therefore struggle with guilt. Essentially, every time we're triggered, we are being invited to break free of an old program that is limiting our joy. I was just talking to someone about this recently that said, the joy had left, but the joy is something that you control. The ego would like to control it, but inevitably you have the control over the situation, and you have the control over your emotions and how you feel, and you can bring that joy anytime that you stop, meditate, think about it, and bring in that joy. And eventually, as we talked about earlier, that feeling of joy will stay with you and you will program yourself to having that feeling regardless of the situation. The book goes on to say with practice, rather than blaming someone else for embarrassing you, you will stead inquire as to why you are so easily embarrassed. With this kind of awareness, you can now decide for yourself to take the layers of shame off, knowing that this limitation was projected onto you and does not need to be endorsed any longer. Once separated from it, you can finally feel freedom in your own skin. It goes on to say, with this type of awareness about yourself, there arises an actual choice to let the program continue or to choose something different. And we spoke about that just a few minutes ago. It's with this new heightened sense of awareness ourselves that the gap emerges between each situation and our response to it, thus allowing for genuine free will and decision. By becoming aware of our ability to choose our inner perspectives and beliefs in every moment, we reclaim authority over our lives and exercise our spiritual will to go behind the ego's patterns, to go beyond rather the ego's patterns of behavior, and rewrite the root program. Using the same example, you would feel embarrassed arising, and rather than becoming it, you could observe it. The inner narrative changes form. This is so embarrassing. I am so embarrassing too. A feeling of embarrassment is coming up, but I choose peace. I'm loved as I am. I can never be embarrassed, and I'm always doing the best that I can. I'm perfect, whole and complete. I embrace myself and love myself. Anyone's opinion of me has nothing actually to do with me. I tell my clients that all the time. It's not your business or your worry, what somebody else thinks about you. That's not for you to worry about. That's not for you to be concerned about. You need to worry about what you're doing. After affirming this new narrative, breathe into this new outlook. Notice how much better it feels, how empowering it is, and how much more loving and true it feels. That also is a key point. Once you start to live in the positive and get rid of the negative, you're going to feel that it feels right. You're going to have that inner resonance inside of you, and you're going to want to hang on to that because you're not going to want to feel anything other than that bliss and joy and positivity. The book says truth changes in the simple small moments of life. There's nothing grandiose needed. All genuine healing comes from consistent small moments that accumulate to make a powerful, lasting shift in awareness. Every time you consciously choose your new narrative over your inherited programs, you are literally becoming a new person, biologically, mentally and spiritually, and then skipping around. There are only three simple steps to the inner work process that can be practiced throughout everyday. Number one, becoming aware of the trigger, connecting them to a root program belief and theme of consciousness, and then uproot and replace it with a new narrative of a higher perspective. So next you want to identify the root program belief and theme of consciousness, which is parallel to what I teach as well. Can you identify any patterns with this particular thought, feeling or action? Have you experienced this trigger before? Does it get triggered often? Start to connect the dots. Remember, nothing is isolated. Triggers will reveal deeply rooted beliefs about your life and who you think you are. Avoid blaming your thoughts, feelings or actions on the current situation, circumstances, or other people. Use eye language instead to take the focus away from the external and into the internal, thus exposing the theme of consciousness you are occupying. The external trigger did not make you fall from peace. Something within you did that. Now you need to find it through honest self inquiry of your own beliefs. Without asking these questions, you'll continue to focus on the external event and will never reveal the true source of your suffering, which is much deeper and entirely internal. You can't remove a tree by trimming its leaves. You have to dig out the root. And it's important to note that finding the root is not to further perpetuate blame or victimhood. It's simply to help you understand that all root program beliefs are inherited, limiting perceptions from the past that are still influencing your present. Once the root's identified, it's easier to let the story go and replace it with something you'd like to experience now. And we just talked about that a few minutes ago, thus allowing the possibility to truly change your life and experience the present moment free from the influence of limiting root program beliefs. It gives some examples. For instance, trigger being anxiety is arising root program belief I believe the worst case scenario is going to happen to me. I've been hurt in the past and now I'm assuming I'll keep getting hurt. Theme of consciousness this must be coming from fear. Trigger craving is arising root program belief I believe I will only be satisfied once I get what I want. I suppressed my discomforts in the past through the enjoyment of pleasures of food, materialism, drugs, alcohol, or sex, and now am assuming they are the source of my happiness. Theme of consciousness this must be coming from desire. And the third trigger, insecurity, is arising root program belief I believe I am not liked or loved unless I prove my worth. I felt inferior when I felt lost or was overlooked in the past, and now I am assuming that if I am not the best or a winner, I will not be loved. Theme of consciousness this must be coming from pride. And then step three is releasing and replacing which we have talked about, and I will give you some triggers for that. Anxiety is arriving. The new narrative will be I believe the best case scenario will happen. My past does not define me. I will always be okay, and I'm being guided. All perceived setbacks are actually working out for my benefit in the long run. And I believe in the goodness of life. Anything is possible for me. For the trigger craving is arising once I get what I want. That one. My happiness is internal. I'm satisfied with myself and my situation. I am just as complete with or without my desire. I am grateful for all that I already have. What a gift it is to be alive. I'm so blessed. And then the third insecurity is arriving, the one where you believe you're not liked or love unless you prove your worth. This must be coming from pride is the theme of consciousness, and the narrative is I am always loved unconditionally. There is enough love and happiness for everyone. There is no competition. I have nothing to prove. I do not need to earn love, for I am innately loved. Love is my natural effortless state and is within me. And then we talk about transcendence. It talks about it in the book, while fear expressed as caution, rational planning for the future. Respect for danger is healthy and keeps us alive. Fear, as a habitual life view will leave us constantly anxious of a negative future that may not ever exist. Thus, to transcend an over attachment to fear, we must focus on motivating our actions through a desire for a brighter future rather than out of fear of a negative one. This transition is made possible by accepting humbly that the mind does not and can never know what the actual future holds. Therefore, all projections of a fearful fate are always only a fabrication within the mind. The present moment is all that actually exists, and fear can only exist in the mind, projecting to an imaginary future both the grief over the past and fear of the future illusions of the mind, projecting outside of the now moment the only moment there ever is. And we just talked about that. So, and then it goes on to talk about the new narratives for all of the triggers and the things that we spoke about earlier, and. And then we go into the new paradigm, accepting our destiny and being congratulated and commended for how far you've come in your journey and what that all means for you. So, all in all, a very, very positive book. And as I said, a lot of things that I teach in my personal work. So I hope that you've enjoyed these past two episodes and you've learned something from them in regards to dealing with and healing your emotional trauma. And most especially the ego. As I started to say in the beginning of this program, the first episode, so many of us are driven by ego. It's so important that we overcome that for our spiritual, emotional and physical well being. Fortunately, I don't have enough time to go into the codependency aspect of it, and we can talk about that next week or maybe change the topics up a little bit. We'll see how I feel. I do things kind of by the spur of the moment. I'm praying and meditating on something, and I'm hearing, you need to talk about this or you need to teach them about that. And that's the way that I'm driven. I listen to everything inside of me and I pay attention, and I'm hoping that you do, too. So to end the night from the portable, do it. We were talking about glamour and money and fame a while back. It's been a while since we've broached this topic, but it's something that came to light in a conversation this week about people missing what they had and not being happy with that they had. And so I thought I'd share this one for you or with you, money, fame and power, for their own sake, all spell one thing. Glamour. Glamour is one of the biggest traps in life. It is a sweet, sticky snare, like the petals of a Venus flytrap. Come to me. It beckons. All happiness lies here. Bob Dylan was quoted as saying, what's money? A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and goes to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do. And like we talked about, even though some of these guys might be now viewed as scoundrels, it doesn't mean that some of the tidbits of wisdom that they shared weren't important to listen to. To affirm is to make firm. An affirmation is a statement of truth. You make firm by repetition. Affirmations help you believe in your dream. Belief is essential. Your dream must become more real than your doubt. Affirmations are like lifting weights, a mechanical process that helps build strength. Belief in your dream. Paula Poundstone says she was a comic back in the day, probably the nineties. I used to work at the international House of Pancakes. It was a dream and I made it happen. And then finally, if you can do something now, do it now. If it can't be done now, decide. A, it's not going to get done, or b, when it will get done. Laziness is nothing more than the habit of resting before you get tired. By Jules Renard. Well, folks, that's our show for tonight. Thank you all so much for listening. We'll be back next week, same time, same station. Please take care of yourselves and each other. Good night, everybody.